prime example: my dad, who doesn’t even know he’s doing it.
context: I am autistic (my parents refuse to acknowledge this). I take things people say at face value. example of this: one time, I was about fifteen years old and I was carrying something for my dad. he said, “you can drop that right there.” so I did that. I let the thing fall out of my hand and drop to the ground. my dad had a moment of “what the-!” and then he caught himself. he laughed a little and said, “well, I did say you could drop it.” then he said, “I’ll be more careful with how I say things in the future.”
and he has been. he laughs a little as he does it (it’s become an in-joke in the past few years), but every time, he says, “gently place [insert thing] on the ground.” and I know exactly what he wants me to do.
it’s not hard. figure out how people work and do your best to work with them.
hey so a kind of serious situation happened (suicide tw)
i don’t wanna get too into the details bc what was said was WAYYYY triggering but
for those unaware my mom’s bf has always been super aggressive and very impulsive. things kind of came to a breaking point a few days ago when he started talking about wanting to kill himself and would refuse to get help
mom hid the gun and he got SUPER aggro on facebook, going into detail abt other ways he could kill himself / talking about how he attempted suicide by overdose last night / how he wanted to “show” people how bad suicide can be— thing is, he doesn’t really talk to anyone irl except for me and my family
so ofc i kinda Freaked Out bc i was worried he was gonna snap and hurt us, and called the cops on him at work and now he’s been admitted to a psych hospital
hopefully he stays there, but in the meantime i’ve kind of put us in a minor pickle bc he was paying for internet and it’s like??? $300 a month i think?? bc he’s an impulsive idiot that insists on buying The Best Shit despite being $60k in debt but anyway uhhh
if y’all could toss me some cash so i can keep my internet going that’d be great,,,
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